Are you excited about the direction your life's going in? But you also have miniature moments of sadness and intense pressure? My last few weeks comprised of this! I could be in a moment of gratefulness, then abruptly switch into negative thoughts + feelings that attempt to intervene back in my life.
I kept my mind and heart in check by writing a blog excerpt for my friend’s blog about romance after heartbreak. Also, social media quotes + posts have their way of helping + being exactly what I need to get through.
On Saturday, I scrolled past a quote that spoke directly to what my life has been for years. I immediately wanted + needed to write a post about it while encouraging you as well. The post said:
2016 changed me
Hey there, let's talk about patience!
Let's talk about how we can make our rough and trying moments - where we want something so bad, rush to get it, and become disappointed in the outcome - better by increasing one area of our lives. Society demands we receive everything instantly and when that doesn't happen, we become upset, angry, and/or frustrated.
Patience is that one area where we can always practice and improve on. This has been a HUGE theme for me throughout the past year. I've been been tested in the areas of employment searches, friends, relationships + dating, and my own self-abilities + skills. The constant rejection, not receiving the results I wanted, and daily life revelations and own experiences and hearing other positive stories helped me come to grips with needing to improve and increase my patience.
"Walk in purpose; Work in purpose."
Last week, my friend randomly messaged me about purpose and asked if I knew mines. I replied with what I believed to be my purpose and uncertainty. As if it wasn't already random, it made me think after while maybe I do know my purpose more than I realize. And that's only because of the struggle it's been trying, feeling like I am not good enough, doing enough, and not seeing the "glitz and glamour" per say. But that is not the case!
When I say "glitz and glamour," I don't mean fame or status; I'm referring to the community building and resonating responses being received from these blog posts I write. But even without it, my purpose still fuels what I do, regardless of the external satisfaction.
This weekend emotionally tried, motivated, and compelled me to share a part of my sacred processing - an excerpt from my journal. As hard as it is to post something this, I am learning not bottle up every single problem by realizing the realities of my circumstances and using my voice to speak my truth; this excerpt shows the areas where growth is still taking effect in my life and how far I've come along.
This is a pep, hype talk to encourage you and I that life isn't defeating you at every turn. Even if we may think so, do what's needed to learn what's going on and IMPROVE! That's the hardest part, but beneficial in the end.
Take what you need, and let it work within to create exactly who you are supposed to be in your journey!
"what’s for you will not pass you.
Now, confirm with these affirmations:
Let this set your mood for the week; I'm rooting for you!
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2017 was my year of FAITH and EXPLORATION, and I can successfully say I've increased in both areas. Being pushed, tested, placed in hard situations & challenges, and almost feeling like I was losing myself were necessary for the sake of my growth — mentally + emotionally. The biggest themes were healing, creating and making the most of each experience.
After last year’s hardship, I didn't know how this year would turn out. I knew there were lessons to learn, so I stayed conscious of them. However, out of rebellion, I ignored or didn't see them. Part of me knew exactly what I needed — time to heal and grow from a heartbreak.
Once I figured out closure wasn't an option, that’s when the true self-reflection began. I started to see the “ugly” emotions and flaws I’d been hiding from myself. I felt the need to change and wanted to dig deep into the root of the issues. Writing allowed me to be vulnerable and let out every emotion and figure out WHY I was feeling this way.
I was scared and wasn't ready to deal with the emotions that came with healing. I wanted what I lost back, pretty much at any cost, even if it meant my sanity. The suddenness in the matter left me shook, out of my element, and a loss for words. Though my friends said I was doing well moving on, it didn’t feel like it. I was fighting urges and deep feelings of being alone.
It was the middle of September when I finally realized and verbally admitted the problem - ME. I wasn't ready because I always expected things to go back to normal, but they never did. I expected a lot of things to help me heal, such as closure, untold answers, and wanting a face to face connection. None of that happened - all the hoping and dreaming went tumbling down into a dark abyss. I never thought I would be that girl, who needed someone else to fulfill her every whim, but that’s who I had become.
Fear kept my faith in healing down. It made me feel like I couldn’t heal or change and that I was stuck being the same person I’ve always been. But I realized fear is all in the mind and seeing isn’t believing. You have to put the time in and make sure you are gaining the outcome you want. That's exactly what I did.
We get ideas. We marinate to see if they're solid, brainstorm the outcome, then plan and strategize. Fruition and execution stages come next and that's where the nervousness kicks in, but we do it anyway. Those notifications start rolling in one by one and for me, my initial reaction is usually a shocking one, pressed with fear and creeping negative emotions.
Is there anyone else who trembles at the thought of pushing past fears and doubts to excel in what you actually want? That’s the season I’m going into right now. As rewarding as it, the thought of "doing more" scares me to pieces but I CANNOT let it stop me!
Friends, how many of us have them?
I’m not just talking about any type of friend or having friends for the sake of it, but how many of us have dependable, accountable, and attentive friends? Friends who check you when you’re wrong, support and encourage your dreams no matter how wild, make you laugh, and make the worst of times feel like the world isn’t ending.
If you do, that’s great! If not, I’ll take on that role for you!
Social media is awesome and exhausting all in the same breathe. In wake of everything happening in the world - cue the whole madness of 45’s “presidency and administration,” NFL protests, and this ludicrous suspensions over social media, i.e. ESPN’s Jemele Hill - we ALL need friends! Friends to help keep our mental health intact and encourage positivity daily when everything seems contradictory.
Reading and hearing so much about Jemele, I thought about support systems and friendships. With all the backlash she is facing, I see how everyone, her co-host, friends, and supporters, on and off social media, is supporting her and her stance of freedom of speech. But it made me think - do I or would I stand for my friends like this through adversity, high-proud moments, and everything between.
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